Do you ever feel like you are acting a certain way or saying certain things because you are trying to get others to like you?  I came across an interesting blog post at http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/authentic-self/ that gave tips on being your true self.  This article really caught my attention, because there are times when I don’t feel like I’m showing my true self.  I start to question whether things I do or say are really how I feel or if I’m just trying to please others.  I think I tend to be a people pleaser.  I want others to like me and may often keep my opinions to myself rather than say something that others will disagree with.

When I got married and had a baby, I wanted to prove to everyone that I was responsible and could handle it, so I went from being a rowdy college student to a serious, responsible adult.  I’ve also played this role in every job I’ve worked since and my coworkers are often surprised when I do something fun or crazy because they don’t expect that from me.  I also don’t like to drink very often in front of my kids because I want to set a good example for them.  I feel it’s important to be a good role model for them.

So, I ask myself, is this the real me or have I been playing a role for most of my adult life?  I’m not sure if I know the answer to that.  I have been told by someone that what they like about me is that I don’t care what others think.  The funny thing is that I do care.  However, I have been judged by others when I choose not to drink or don’t drink as much as they do.  There have even been many times that we are not invited to a night out because “we aren’t into that kind of thing.”  I used to be offended by it, but I finally realized that I’d rather spend time with real friends that don’t judge me.  I guess the fact that I stand my ground and don’t change who I am no matter how others treat me should tell me that I am being true to myself.

Being true to yourself is also important when you are trying to lose weight.  If you are committed to losing weight, you need to stick to what you believe in.  Others will try to influence you or tempt you, but if you are true to yourself, you will not let them knock you off track.  Always put yourself first and don’t worry about what others think.  Just remember, you are valuable just as you are.  You are the only person just like you, so don’t be afraid to show your true self and be who you are.  The more you believe in yourself, the more confidence you will have and the more your true friends will believe in you and support you.

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